Over the past year I’ve tried to read a number of non-fiction books; discussing everything from how we create relationships to how to keep your plants alive; but sadly they haven’t managed to keep my attention to finish any of them.
Determined to break my non-fiction, non-finishing streak, I said yes to receiving a copy of Kate Leaver’s The Friendship Cure. This is one of the most relatable books I’ve read in a very long time, as someone in her late twenties, I’ve definitely seen a shift in how I view friendships and have also lived through a couple of broken friendships too.
One of my favourite chapters discusses friendship break-ups. In some cases a break down of friendship takes more of an emotional toll on us than a breakdown of a romantic one. It’s something that isn’t normally addressed in novels and the media, but it’s something that can massively impact your everyday life. As soon as that friendship ends for whatever reason, it can feel like all the experiences and secrets you shared as friends are gone too. Especially friends you’re with as a teenager and at school, it’s hard to spend so much time with someone, for them to suddenly not be part of your life. If you know someone going through something similar or you yourself is experiencing this loss of a friendship, this chapter will definitely make you fell like you’re not alone.
My other favourite part is all about bromance; it explores the idea that people believe there’s a difference between a relationship between two women, compared to what two men might share. Interestingly the psychological studies that feature in the chapter interviewed young men about their platonic relationships with other men. When the question of a more emotional, caring relationship arose, (which is something likened to the stereotypical idea of a relationship between two women) the study showed that some young men were scared to share their emotions completely with their male friends in fear of it being misinterpreted as romantic intentions. It’s a really interesting finding and one that made me think about my brother and Steve’s relationships with their friends.
The book is a valuable read for anyone looking to understand the changes and different dynamics of the friendships within their lives. It approaches subjects such as the loneliness that is accustomed to social media and how we should actually use this new way of potentially making friends to our advantage, rather than thinking the internet is the end of ‘real-life’ friendship and communication as we know it. It recommends following the people who inspire you or you can relate with compared to the people who when you’re sitting at home on your sofa make you feel like you’re living a less exciting life.
Kate’s storytelling style is a mix of personal experience and psychological studies and works perfectly in unravelling today’s complicated friendship web. For someone who has really tried to get into non-fiction reading, this book is the perfect place to start!